Why is everyone breaking up and dying?
Morbid... sorry
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Ok so obviously the subject line is tricky. In the past few weeks I’ve had a lot of close friends be surrounded by misfortune- breakups, deaths, and sicknesses. Me? I happened to tear my ACL, MCL, and meniscus. But I’m not in the business of making other friends tragedies my content. The question still stands though- in your late 20’s life seems to become slightly more existential. The quarter-life crisis seems to be a real thing.
I really started noticing it when I was 26. Things are changing, and they will only continue to change. Your early 20’s, especially in New York, has a lot of people on the same playing field. New to adulthood, very little attachments, living for life at that exact moment. You probably started a new job out of college, living with a roommate or in a new place, and excited to start building. Life felt more carefree, and as I reflect on the life of Drinks First, that was definitely true.
Ages 22-25: I was throwing parties at The Jane (work was play), going on careless dates, working at my 9-5 with health insurance. Everyone was on the same track, things were just easier.
Ages 25-28: I was in a relationship, I left my job to build a company (play is now work), and now everyone else around me seemed to start diverging at their cross roads.
So what is that crossroads?
The easiness of life seems to fade as we move further into our 20’s. Adulthood starts to become real, and we are all grown up.
I’m sure a lot of you in your 30’s, 40’s, 50’s, 60’s etc. who are reading this are rolling your eyes. This isn’t rocket science, it’s just life.
The bachelorette parties, weddings, baby showers, grad school acceptances and graduations, company acquisitions, layoffs, friends moving to different states and countries. These are all markers of time moving past us.
So what is all of this about?
I think I will die early.
Woooah ok sorry for that lol
I’m not sure what early is- but I think it will happen in an unexpected way. But honestly, I don’t often think about death, but for some reason I always believed this was my fate.
My friends always get mad when I bring it up… and I understand why. I’m not religious or spiritual, I don’t believe in astrology, I’m not a manifester. And I hope I get proved wrong about this but…
What I do believe is that life is worth living for the now.
No matter the age- go on that trip, talk to that person, start that company, go to the party where you don’t know anyone, try that new restaurant, lie in bed all day if that’s what you want.
You won’t regret it.
I refuse to wake up one day and realize I was living for someone else, or I wish I did more. I don’t think this is a lesson that you can stop learning, regardless of what age you are.
So as transience persists: people break up, die, move on to new chapters in their lives, know that your timeline is just that. It’s yours.
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